Do you allow yourself the time and space you need to recharge and rest? Or, are you someone who struggles to say no to the needs of others at the expense of your own emotional and energetic wellbeing?

Taking care of your emotional and energetic wellbeing is as important as looking after your physical health and wellbeing. Many people overlook this aspect of self-care and wonder why they feel emotionally drained and energetically out-of-balance.

Permission to take time out

If you are someone who is naturally giving of your time and energy to help and support others, yet you struggle to give yourself time and space to recharge due to feelings of guilt or over responsibility for the welfare of others, remember you need to give yourself permission to do so. No one else can do it for you.

Being able to say ‘no’ when necessary, and creating and sustaining strong emotional boundaries is essential to prevent you from burning out and trying to be all things to all people.

Find what works for you

Self-care takes different forms for different people. For some people it means shutting the door and being alone for 20 – 30 minutes a day of peace and quiet. For others it might be going on a retreat for a weekend somewhere away from home and daily routines, or taking a long hot bath to relax and unwind.

When it comes to emotional and energetic self-care being aware of what situations, behaviours and attitudes affect you emotionally and energetically is key. If you are continually reacting to other’s demands on your time and energy and doing things out of fear or guilt, it is highly likely this will be having a negative impact on your emotional and energetic wellbeing.

If you are run by mental programs that tell you you are being lazy or self-indulgent if you are not constantly busy running around and doing things, taking time out to reflect on what is behind the need to be constantly busy could be very revealing.

Support yourself with flower essences

You can support yourself with flower essences. A blend of flower essences recommended below can help you release old and outworn emotional patterns that are preventing you from giving yourself time and space to rest, reflect and recharge.

This blend has been specially curated from selected First Light® flower essences to support you on all levels of your being. The First Light® flower essences in this blend holistically support you to care for yourself, maintain strong emotional and energetic boundaries, know what your own needs are and to feel emotionally empowered and supported.

Content and formula taken from First Light Flower Essences of New Zealand website, all rights reserved.

No 10 Starry Hibiscus – The Tenderness Essence – supports you to mother, protect and care for yourself, emotionally sustain yourself and be attuned to your innermost emotional needs.

No 11 Chatham Island Geranium – The Nurturing Essence – supports you to be free from emotional expectations and projections from others and to experience your own capacity to nurture, care and nourish yourself.

No 12 Native Harebell – The Tenacity Essence – holistically supports you to have greater emotional resilience and resolve and take responsibility for your own emotional needs

No 18 Purple Koromiko – The Simplicity Essence – supports you to have clarity around your own personal boundaries, move beyond self-destructive guilt programs and take necessary care of yourself.

No 38 Rasp Fern – The Boundaries Essence – holistically supports you to maintain emotional and sexual boundaries, to feel emotionally safe, satisfied and sustained, and get in touch with your own deeper feelings.

No 61 Mt Cook Lily – The Peace Essence – helps you to gently release patterns of feeling guilty and supports you to be at peace with non-structure and non-initiating forces so you can live more fully in the present moment.

No 64 Koromiko – The Wisdom Essence – supports you at a soul level to experience enhanced levels of inner poise and tranquillity, energetic autonomy and stronger personal boundaries. Holistically supports you to be a ‘closed booked’ and take time out to get back in touch with yourself.

No 71 Coastal Convolvulus – The Reflection Essence – supports your capacity to go within and take time out for contemplation and introspection to find the answers and solutions you need. Helps you to cultivate a space of inner silence and stillness.

You can take these flower essences individually 2-4 drops directly under the tongue or in a glass of water, 3-4 times daily. Or you can use them to create your own flower essence blend.